Wed, 27 April 2016
Author Tara Mohr says there is a link between the criticism that most hurts us and the negative beliefs we hold about ourselves. Likewise, there’s a relationship between the praise we most seek and the things that our insecurities tell us. So it’s not so much the “words” as it is how I attach them to what I am already feeling inside. The story tends to be about us.
One of the most powerful ways we can have a more useful relationship to praise and criticism is always to look at feedback and say, “What does that tell me about the person, or the people, giving the feedback?” Remember that feedback always shows you information about the person giving the feedback and it doesn’t necessarily tell you information about yourself.